Busy days over here! Met mums cleaner - quite a profitable job - £15 for 2 hours work? Have to also pay the gardener - he potters around weeding and planting oonce a month @ £25. Off to see mum - lucid today! Was so great to actually know she was on this planet - however - said definitely does not want to go into a home, it would finish her off - pointed out that staying at home falling over and blacking out would also finish her off! Anyway - will keep trying. Off to the grundys when Rosie had "plated" a meal for me and then Alan & Helen popped in to see me as well. Rosie & Andrew are in the process of adopting 2 little girls - come from a family of 6 from a single mother in the worst part of Manchester but both of them bright as a button 5 + 6 years old, very pretty with curly blonde hair but so lively! Thank goodness they have enough money to get help in so that they can have time to cope with this lot!
Back to Northwich and out to dinner with Bruce - youch - went for an Indian meal - £29! But he deserves it for all his help. Then a call from David who said he thinks Mum should go into a home - at least we are on the same page about that.
Got off to a good start on Monday morning - very helpful social worker - he will visit Mum with me tomorrow and get a list of places that are currently available so that will decrease the list and give me focue - must have en suite facilities too. Then to HSBC - will cost me £6 per month just to have an account so have decided to delay it until absolutely necessary - it is so that if mum runs out of money we can top up whatever costs are incurred - help!
Then back home at 11.30 to await my "telephonic appointment" with Dr Adams scheduled for 12. Huh! Phoned at 12.05 to find out what was happening - no - he had phoned at 11.15 and said I wasn't there and had now gone hime - can only get another "telephonic appointment" on Thursday. Not helpful att all! Also spoke to the lawyers, if Mum refuses to go into a home I can apply to the court in London to have her registered mentally incapable - everyone would be notified and can have input - really hope I don't have to go that route.
Off to Leighton to visit Mum - am making less mistakes on the way there nowadays! She seemed to be lucid again but then would refer to whether I had seen Dad. Very sad. The woman in the bed next to her is a real character - when the nurse asked whether the marks on her nightie were gravy or hot chocolate she tartly replied that they shoulsn't be either! When offered tea of coffee she replied that she would prefer champagne! Will have to see what I can arrange for Mums birthday on Thursday.
Don't hink I culd move back to the UK - the bureaucracy drives me crazy. I found out that there is a 7 day pass for parking that costs £10 and I had been paying £3 each day - so went to where I thought you had to go - wrong, then they said I had to get a form from the ward - so rather that climbing the stairs and traipsing all the way back to ward 14 (miles of corridors) I poppe din to ward 1 - no, they can't do it - has to be the ward where the patient is - why can't they look on their computers or phone reception to confirm! So all the way back to ward 14 and then down again - but will save me in the long run.
Found my way to Hartford to have dinner with Muriel and John - had never realised there was a difference between Shepherds pie and cottage pie - one is lamb abd one is beef. Anyway she "plated" me with enough cottage pie to feed 10 starving cambodians and it was so good I ate it all! Sio much for having been so good on wieght watchers! Then we walked along to a home to see whether it would be suitable - unfortunately the only en suite room was upstairs and they did not have the necessary nursing care needed but at least that is one that can be crossed off the list.
It is so nice that it stays late until about 9 - can get more done. Went home and was astonished to find that all the dead pot plants I had left on the steps had vanished - I stood and looked around and couldn't work it out until Dorothy popped her head out and said she had moved them - obvioulsy I am being a slob again! Started a jigsaw - need something to keep me sane with my relatives - David phoned to again tell me Mum must go into a home and now because it was worrying him..... yeah yeah yeah and in the same breath that he wanted the coffee table. I can see this is going to be a daily occurence and hate to think what he'll say when I take him to see Mum on her birthday. Then cousin Marilyn phoned - to ask whether I'd got everything sorted out yet - and this for the person who needs a weeks holiday after a trip to the shops - it is so tiring!
Tuesday - up early and off down the canal to Marbury forest to see the carpets of bluebells - lovely. On the way there I met a lamb - it was on the left bank and all the other sheep were on the right bank - so it jumped in and swam across but then couldn't get out so it swam back and allowed me to grab it by the front legs and haul it out. Larry the lamb no 128! As he got out he wriggeled and jerked away and then I could not catch him again - otherwise I would have carried him to the bridge and then back along the other side, even though there is not a towpath there - but he kept leaping away and I could not get him, I asked a barge to stop and help me and then if we could cathc him they culd drop him off on the other side but theye just wished me luck and carried on. Poor Larry, just couldn't grab him - so I left him and walked on. Asked any people that I met if they knew the sheep farmer but they didn't (so limited in their lives!). On the way back he had disappeared so he must have either made it back somehow, or gone for a walk in the woods or was at the bottom of the canal - hope he made it!
Off now to pop in to see David and maybe take him out for tea - hope the carer doesn't come - its very inhibiting having this brooding Bulgarian presence - plus - do I have to pay for his tea too?
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